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We are Estate of Mind, an intentional community centered around creative collaboration, based in the historic Oakhurst Manor complex in Whitinsville, MA, USA.


We currently ask $1050 per month. Here's how it breaks down:


All residents have the ability to participate in discussions and decisions which could influence any changes to costs. Rent, utilities, and groceries may fluctuate based on the number of residents and renovation progress. Any definitive financial changes will be communicated in writing at least 30 days in advance.


There may be opportunities for a 25% rent discount in exchange for work trade. In order to be eligible, the resident must pay 100% of their expected rent each month for the first three months. During these 3 months, negotiations take place where the labor contributions and need for such labor are validated by community leadership. Incoming residents are not guaranteed a work trade opportunity. You might also consider joining us temporarily as a Volunteer Guest.


An intentional community is a voluntary residential community which is designed to have a high degree of social cohesion and teamwork. The members of an intentional community typically hold a common vision, and share some responsibilities and property.

Our common vision is one of creative collaboration. Our community comprises artists, makers, and creators, collaborating on their creative pursuits.

Our community does not have any specific political, religious, or spiritual focus. We do not share incomes, or require work in any revenue-generating roles.


We are diverse range of people with a wide scope of experiences and skills. Co-existing can prove challenging at times, but ultimately it works because we are working together toward a common goal.

Here are some ways you might describe more than a few of us:

* There's a lot of renovation to be done. Several of our residents are here on the construction crew. If you have a skilled trade, you'll likely find likeminded people here, and no shortage of projects to keep you busy. 

We love creating spaces for others to host events, and we love to create our own events. We love having guests in our home, who travel from all over the world to visit and volunteer. We're used to having all sorts of new people entering our home, and we're equipped to deal with the challenges that this can present, because we enjoy the rewards it brings.


Children, teenage-minors, and/or pets who are good fits for the community are sometimes accepted as residents here. Children and pets are considered as individual candidates for residency the same way you are. We want to meet them first and see if they're a good fit with other residents, including other kids and pets.

We have an entire building for residents with pets.

We have an entire building for residents with kids, and presently we have two part-time kids who are exceptionally mature and fun to spend time with, who are always attended by their parent while in common spaces.


We do not have the resources to guarantee support for individuals in crisis. We do not have the tools or expertise of social workers or psychologists. We are not a mutual-aid community for mental health and other situations.

Residents who thrive here know their emotional needs, have support in place to maintain emotional stability, and communicate when they are disregulated or need help. They to set personal boundaries for their community contributions so as to not deplete their own resources. When they are struggling, they do not hold others responsible for their emotional needs. They have the capacity to be resilient and communicate kindly and quickly if someone says something uncomfortable or upsetting. 


Q. Is marijuana legal in MA?

A. Yes! And many of us at the est8 enjoy it. "Adult-use and medical marijuana are both legal in Massachusetts. Recreational marijuana is legal for only Massachusett residents who are 21 years and above. Meanwhile, medical cannabis is for all patients that meet the qualifying conditions contained in the law." Source: More info about marijauana laws in MA is available at

Q. Is abortion legal in MA?

A. Yes! "Abortion in Massachusetts is legal up to at least the 24th week of pregnancy, with exceptions allowing later termination of pregnancies in some circumstances." Source: Wikipedia. More info about abortion laws in MA is available at

Massachusetts Abortion Legal Hotline: 833-309-6301 for free and confidential legal advice for Massachusetts residents and those who travel to Massachusetts for an abortion, and also connects patients with information about abortion access and care in the state.

Accessing abortion care in Massachusetts.

If you need to visit MA to have safe access to abortion care, and need somewhere for you and your caregiver(s) to stay to make this possible, please reach out to us.

Q. Is kink legal in MA?

A. No. Uhh... wait... WHAT? Well, it's complicated. And likely unconstitutional. This does not stop us from creating safe spaces for consenting adults to engage in kinky activities. The last known case of legal intervention in a Massachusetts kink space was in the year 2000 in Attleboro, MA, in a case that was jokingly dubbed "Paddleboro". In July 2000, police raided a sex club and fined one woman for spanking another woman with a paddle, although consensual. Her case was dismissed in court about a year later. Here's an article about that.

Q. Are there any free STI-testing clinics near Estate of Mind

A. Yes! AIDS Project Worcester (165 Southbridge St, Worcester, MA 01608) offers: STI testing, PReP, and more. This about a 20 minute drive from the est8.

Q. Is sex work legal in MA?

A. No. You can read more about it on this website about decriminalizing sex work.

Q. Can women go topless in MA?

A. No. "In most parts of the U.S., it is illegal for women to go topless in public. Women may legally do so only in six states, and specific cities and beaches. If a woman goes topless in public anywhere else in America, it is considered indecent exposure. In Massachusetts, the maximum penalty for indecent exposure is up to six months in jail and a $200 fine. Public toplessness for men, however, is legal everywhere." Source Massachusetts Daily Collegian. However, according to, the Massachusetts state laws are ambiguous on the matter. We do allow nudity and toplessness on parts of our property, although in practice this hasn't proven to be a popular choice for the vast majority of our residents or guests.

Q. Does Massachusetts have free healthcare?

A. Maybe? There are some healthcare programs for low-income residents, called MassHealth. Read more about it on

Hope this helps you decide if life in Massachusetts is right for you!



Sparr and Victoria have a 25-acre 42-bedroom estate in eastern Massachusetts to serve as a home and home base for themselves, some friends, and some creative and collaborative friends of friends. This document describes Sparr’s plan for how to organize the community that he hopes to develop through this endeavor, as well as various practical details of the property and location.


25-35 artists, makers, musicians, performers, event organizers, and other creative types living in long-term community on a historic estate, using common spaces, workshops, and other amenities to build things, engage in artistic endeavors, host events and guests and artists in residence, and otherwise pursue their passions. A five minute walk from small town amenities, one hour west of Boston Logan airport by car or two hours by occasional transit.



Provide a space for creative people to live together and pursue their creative passions.


noun - A Greek word meaning "character" that is used to describe the guiding beliefs or ideals that characterize a community, nation, or ideology. The Greeks also used this word to refer to the power of music to influence emotions, behaviors, and even morals.



Many norms of the community will develop and change over time. The list here represents Sparr’s expectations of the community he is building. Further experience and the specific people who become involved could affect these norms.

Use of the Space

We do much more than just sleep and store our stuff here.

We leave common spaces almost as clean as we found them, or better. [see “Chores”]

We maintain a relatively (~80th percentile) clean and organized house and workshop.


We communicate openly and honestly.

We share our grievances directly with each other, except about actions which would warrant someone’s removal from the community which might be reported indirectly.

We avoid exaggeration, hyperbole, and dishonesty when saying something negative about another person.


We welcome nudity in common spaces not visible from off the property, with reasonable hygiene precautions, with exceptions for certain events and times.

We welcome displays of affection in common spaces.

We avoid sexual or BDSM activity in common spaces, with exceptions for explicitly defined spaces or events for which significant notice and/or signage has been given.

We treat loud sex and other intimate noises like any other noise, and ask for quiet in similar tone, demeanor, and circumstances as asking someone to turn down loud music or postpone using loud tools.

We apply an objective standard of intimate and physical consent when considering the behavior of our residents and guests, based on what a reasonable person could perceive in the given situation. We eschew reliance on unknowable states of mind and the typical unwritten unspoken “except when my judgement disagrees”.

TODO: Discuss and establish community expectations regarding one or both parties being inebriated or altered for a first intimate activity.


Residents are welcome to use and change the spaces and amenities as they see fit (do-ocracy), other than physical changes that are either time consuming or costly to undo or that are forbidden by historical preservation, zoning, or other laws, as long as they announce and document substantial changes (treat the space like a wiki). Behaviors and norms and plans will be discussed if someone objects, with decisions about most such things being made by residents interested in the topic in question (democracy with no quorum). Sparr reserves veto authority and anticipates using it for a small fraction of such decisions (benevolent dictator). Residents failing to uphold the ethos and priorities of the community, abide by community decisions, or who regularly make poor or inconsiderate decisions that significantly hamper the productivity and enjoyment of the other residents will be asked to leave.


After reaching critical mass (20+ residents) we will employ staff for cleaning and other recurring necessary tasks, very tentatively estimated at 10-20 hours per week for each of house cleaning, house maintenance, shop cleaning, shop maintenance, and outdoor maintenance. Residents will be prioritized in filling these roles. Residents and visitors will be expected to clean up their own significant messes, but will not usually be responsible for the general cleanliness and orderliness of the space. “Leave spaces almost as clean as you found them”

This strategy may change over time if a significant number of residents believe, and later demonstrate, that they can successfully adhere to some community-designed chore system that maintains the cleanliness and usefulness of the common spaces and amenities.


In addition to the buildings and other spaces, this community will endeavor to coordinate or provide other shared communal amenities that benefit from an economy of scale or sharing. Likely such things include:

Meal Plan

We aim to have a resident cook, and have a tentative plan for communal groceries (~$100-150 per month per person) which will be used to prepare dinner and an earlier meal on weekdays, possibly with a brunch on the weekend.


We are considering experimenting with part time presence of humans between the age of 1 and 18 in our community. Making this work will depend on dedicated efforts on the part of multiple people with regards to planning, coordination, communication, safety, legal implications, etc. It is unlikely that we will move toward having children live here full time.


We are dedicating the 4-bedroom house to indoor pet owners. There will certainly be indoor cats and possibly indoor or indoor/outdoor dogs. We will likely cap the number somewhere between one per bedroom (4) and one per person (up to 8). Prospective new pets will need to have audition play dates with the current resident pets to check for compatibility, similar to humans interviewing with other humans.

Pets who frequently make biological messes other than in designated places (litter box, outside, etc) will not be welcome, nor will humans who fail to clean up their pets’ such messes in short order. Ditto pets that repeatedly damage the house or people’s belongings. Humans with pets will be responsible for preventing pet hair and messes from making their way into other spaces, particularly the dorm common rooms. Pet owners are expected to brush and otherwise responsibly groom their hairy pets on a regular basis.


Details coming soon about guest policy (for guests of residents), meetings, participation, member voting, etc.